(Don't) Put a Ring On It - The Curse of the Engagement Ring in Romance Comics!
Over the years I've been studying romance comics, I've noticed something; hardly ever does a marriage proposal in the romance comics culminate with the giving of an engagement ring. Actually, more often than not, when a ring does make an appearance, things tend not to turn out very well for the parties concerned. Today, media, advertising, and other cultural expectations make engagement rings seem like the cornerstone of any engagement, and often, almost eclipse the actual romance of the event in its retelling. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not against a little bling as a symbolic token of one's love, affection, and commitment, but their almost curse-like properties in the romance comics is a pretty fascinating phenomena!
First, let's take a look at a few stories in which a ring is given.
A pin takes the place of a ring in "A Lesson for Linda," but the outcome is not good. The couple eventually splits because Ron doesn't approve of Linda's career ambitions.
In "He Laughed at My Tears!" Janie receives a beautiful ring, but it isn't enough to keep the romance going. Things eventually sour with her fiancé when Janie falls in love with another man. Oops! Too bad for Billy!
You know something is awry when I story starts,
"I only met Jerome Riall eight days ago... but there's a fantastic diamond on my finger now and we're engaged to be married in less than a month! It's all according to the plan I had when I applied for this job in the Las Vegas hotel... Where I knew there were more rich men than could be found anywhere else!"
Angela does end up marrying, but not Jerome, and not until she learns the lesson that jewels and riches should not come before love. The engagement in this story is especially interesting because it associates a gold digger with the pursuit of a "fantastic diamond."
Just because it's sparkly, a ring does not make up for an unsparkly relationship, as demonstrated in Charlton's "I'll Be Alone..."
"Obey That Impulse!" is one of the rare stories that features an engagement ring and ends well for the two lovers. But when you take into consideration that Wayne already had a fiancée, maybe "ends well" is open to interpretation!
Now, let's look at what non-ring bearing proposals look like.
Though their engagement has a few bumps in the road, this Young Love story ends as happily as that 100-watt smile.
Who says a proposal has to be fancy? Jim's simple proposal in the car won him mega points with his lady. These two crazy kids wind up getting married, and the story finishes with a happily ever after worthy of a fairy tale.
Lovebirds Dean and Holly may have had a little physical distance between them during their betrothal, but all ends well! Let's just hope they got a little closer on their honeymoon!
True love doesn't discriminate when it comes to location. Sometimes, a guy just has to pop the question while at work, and in front of his future mother-in-law!
Just on the cusp of the 1960s, there was nothing wrong with a simple moonlit proposal in "A Lifetime of Love!"
It seems as if Raj and Leah have just gotten to know one another, but a no-fuss beach side proposal suits their carefree personalities.
Now, I won't leave out the possibility that there could be plausible explanations for the lack of/negative portrayal of engagement rings in the romance comics. Perhaps, it could be complete and utter coincidence; or, the fact that engagement rings just simply weren't as popular with the primarily male, depression-era generation creating the romance comics. Another explanation for their infrequency could be that in the romance comics, so full of impulsive romantic fantasy, premeditated proposals were few and far between. With so many of them being spur of the moment, doesn't that make them more romantic in a way?
It's funny that something we consider so normalized now (the giving of an engagement ring) was portrayed as anything but just a few decades ago. The famous De Beers slogan, "A Diamond is Forever" doesn't really carry a whole lot of weight in the romance comics. From what we've seen, in the lives of romance comic book characters, a diamond really doesn't mean much -- but true love sure does mean everything.